Hidden truth is a project for African and non-African men living in Medway who are in abusive relationship. They meet once a month to socialise and get training on assertiveness, health and safety etc. It is a support Network that provides information, one to one support, counselling and available options to victims to prevent mental ill-health, alcohol dependency and reduce isolation. This is the first and one of its’ kind in the Medway.
When talking about Domestic violence we often refer to the victim of abuse as female, the abuser as male. We have realised that there are many men within our community who are either current victims of domestic abuse or have survived and escaped an abusive relationship; there are no support system for them in the area.
Many of the effects of abuse for the male victim of domestic violence are the same as for women.
A lot of male victims of abuse however, have great difficulty defining it as such. This is partially due to the image our African society generally has of a Man. Men are often thought of as strong, domineering and macho. Boys, even at a young age, are taught that it is unmanly to cry (“big boys don’t cry”). To many Africans, the idea of a grown man being frightened or vulnerable is a taboo.
The idea to embark on the project originated form one of the Faith leaders in Medway who have been overwhelmed by the number of men coming to him to seek advice about their situation at home. Within the African communities it is uncommon for men to be at the receiving end. HACO was asked to step in and get something done in other to bring the situation to the public so that whoever is in a similar situation will not go and kill them as a Zimbabwe man did in Sheffield because he could not take the humiliation anymore
• The information on Men abuse will increase their skills and confidence. They will know what to do if they are caught up in a violent relationship and where to go for help.
• As the names of the project indicate (The Hidden Truth) will now be an open truth. Victims will know that they are not alone, that there are many men out there like them.